I don’t remember where i read this on tumblr or from who, but i wanted to restate this idea for posterity.
If you have “rape” fantasies, you actually have domination fantasies. Rape happens when someone does not consent (the absence of a clear “yes”, not the presence of a “no”).
Rape is not…
No. I’m just. No, ok? I enjoy rape play, and consensual nonconsent. I have been raped as well, at the age of 10 years old. Nothing I do “diminishes” what rape survivors have been through. Your commentary offends and disgusts me. Learn more about the kink before running your fucking mouth, ok? Also, please kindly go fuck yourself. :]
To clarify: I honestly think that I enjoy rape play because it gives me the ability to relive what was a horrific, awful, traumatizing experience and be in control of it. *I* can stop it if it becomes too much for me. *I* can safe word. *I* can repossess the power that was fucking TAKEN from me when I was so young and reclaim my own fucking sexuality and sexual desires. *I* can stop the play at ANY TIME. How DARE you say that I am diminishing ANYTHING, you asshole. Fuck you. Just. Fuck. You.
