I am REALLY TIRED of this fucking fallacy that you cannot be a strong dedicated feminist AND a submissive at the same time THEY ARE NOT MUTUALLY EXCLUSIVE KIDS the whole point of feminism is equality for people to CHOOSE what they want to do/be in life and submissives are CHOOSING to submit to someone that is the DEFINITION OF FEMINISM. I am not any less of a feminist because I submit to Adam and have rules and punishments and etc etc and if you think that I am then I do not want to be friends with you I am not even joking.
Yeah, fuck that.
As much as I personally hate using a safe word I find it absolutely necessary for any scene, no matter who with or what is being done. It is my strong belief that true BDSM practice requires some safety signal in case of emergency. Without that, the very basis of the relationship dynamic is rendered useless. I do not condone BDSM-play without a safe word, as this is potentially dangerous to both partners. Safety and communication are absolute concrete foundations to BDSM.
Seriously. Even if I don’t use it, knowing that its there in case something happens and that I KNOW that I can use it. That is what matters to me. Things happen, scenes don’t always go right. Sometimes it just has to be used because your hurt or something doesn’t feel right mentally. And that’s okay.
That and I find not having the ability to use it, takes away from things being consensual.
Basically, this. I know that some couples GENUINELY have no safe word. They feel it unnecessary or just don’t want one or they’re no limit slaves, what have you. Kaya, at www.underhishand.com, is one such person. She has no safe word with her Master. And that’s great for them because they make it work. But if you have a safe word, and you do not feel comfortable doing BDSM play without a safe word, then it is a red goddamn flag for someone to say that you are not allowed to use your safe word. No one takes my safe word from me. My Ulfric respects the fact that I have one; actually damn near demanded that we have one. BDSM is about safe, sane, and consensual. See that last word? Consensual. If the S-type (sub, slave, masochist, whatever) has a safe word in place already, and the D-type (Dominant, Master, Owner, etc.) arbitrarily removes it without the consent of the s-type, then any play that happens after that point is NOT CONSENSUAL and therefore NOT OK.
Basically: If there’s a safe word, it has to be agreed upon by both fucking parties to remove it and do BDSM play without it. The D-type doesn’t just get to say LOL WELL I KNOW YOU HAVE A SAFE WORD, BUT TONIGHT, NO YOU DON’T. If they do that, then they are an abuser, not a Master.
Gaga comes across as shocking, daring and even a pioneer when it comes to music and fashion. No doubt the girl can sing. Just give her a spotlight and a piano. Gaga likes toying with all sorts of things though including sadomasochism (Alejandro). She did a photo shoot for the Japanese Vogue and…
You’re CLEARLY an idiot. She wasn’t fucking drugged you moron. Shut your mouth.
“You are no one’s slave, dog, slut, or sub until you give them that right. Only you can give it. No one can take or assume it without your permission.” — Jack Rinella